How To Be Happily Single

Is it that you're newly single and don't know how to be in your company? Is it that you always find yourself getting into relationships just so you don't have to be alone? or is it that you poured yourself completely in a relationship and one day it just ended, leaving you feeling like your whole world has fallen apart and that you wasted all your energy on someone else's growth instead of your own? whatever your reason maybe, I have a few things to remind you. First of all YOU DO NOT NEED ANOTHER PERSON TO BE HAPPY IN YOUR OWN LIFE and secondly A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T DEFINE HOW EMOTIONALLY FULFILLED YOU ARE. Let's face the truth not everyone who is in a relationship is happy, and we don't get to see what goes on behind the closed doors so we should never compare our happiness to someone else's. Is it that you just want someone to come home to at the end of the day and feel loved and appericiated? someone loyal and affectionate who gets excited to see you? well then get a puppy. Here are a few reasons you should embrace being single until the right person comes along.

Time To Get To Know Yourself: When you're single, you should use the time to get in touch with yourself, your likes and dislikes, your patterns and what hasn't worked for you in the past, what your dreams and goals are in life and what you need to do to create the happy and beautiful life that you deserve, now that may include being in a emotionally fulfilling relationship, but to attract and recognize the right type of person for ourselves we also need to know what we need and desire in a partner. Use this time to do that.When you're single, you have more time to work on things that you didn't have time to pursue when you were dating or when you were stressing about dating. Use the time to be better and love yourself. Use this time to let go off your past and focus on your personal growth.

Fear Of Being Alone: It's easy to feel alone at times, we are taught from the get go, that emotional abundance means being loved by someone else, but honestly that's not really true. You don't have to have a relationship or a family to be happy in your own life, you decide what happiness is to you, it doesn't have to be finding the love of your life. Career, money, health and relationships are all a part of our life but no one part is the whole life. You don't have to have a romantic relationship to feel fulfilled, you're not really unloved or lonely. When we are happy with ourselves and on our own we also attract people who are happy and content with their own lives. If you're just chasing love out of fear of being alone chances are you will attract toxic people who are only here to take advantage of your vulnerability or people who are also unhappy with their own lives.

Play The Lead: Yes the universe doesn't revolve around you but your life does and relationships take some work and effort (the good ones at least) so stop playing the role of someone who is unhappy and just waiting for someone else to come in and make everything all sunny and happy instead become that person who has a lot going on for themselves and is happy with their life, has their own dreams and goals and when you meet someone you like, you can share that with them. Just be happy with yourself and stay humble.

Stop The Influences: Is it that you're just tired of third wheeling? is it that all your friends are taken? or is it that you grew up in a family where having a succesful romantic relationship means you will have a happy life? break that cycle, like I said you never know what goes on behind the closed doors, we only see what people show us and you can always change your perspective about your life because it's YOUR LIFE, it doesn't have to be defined by another person's opinion or believes on being happy.

I hope this reminds you that you don't need to be sad just because you're single, if anything it means you can do whatever you want with your life. You're already a whole person you don't need someone else to feel complete, this is the time you should be using to focus on yourself and create your own life and ofcourse put yourself out there see if you meet someone you click with, you will also get to discover what you want and don't want in a partner. Life is too short for you to be making the idea of love your source of happiness.