How To Be Humble

Being humble is something I struggled with quite a lot, we all want to be a better person to ourselves and to the people around us but sometimes that can be a real struggle. I struggled with being nicer simply because of the way I was raised, and to be frank we live in a pretty superficial society where it is easy to lose touch with empathy. These are a few ways you can practice being more humble.

1. Get in touch with yourself: everything in your life starts with you, when you are in touch with yourself and your own emotions, it is easier to understand the people around you.

2. Listen: Now by this I mean actually listen to your friends and loved ones when they are talking to you even if it's just about what flavor of ice cream they bought their kid the other day. It will help you create a positive and comfortable energy between you and the person. See it's important for the next person to feel heard, when we don't pay attention to what other's are saying we can come off cold and uninterested and no one wants to be around that (for long).

3. Be kind: Kindness can go a long way and should really be something that comes to us naturally but through social conditioning we lose touch with it. Be nice to people that's really all I can say about that.

4. Support: Be supportive to the people around you, when someone comes to you to vent or with a new idea they have, be supportive of them. Again this ties in with listening when other's talk. Offer advice when it's asked for and reassurance, we all need a push sometimes.

5. Lower your expectations: Just because you are nice, generous and kind doesn't mean everyone out there is (yet) so it's important to not expect the same in return. Not everyone is on the same wave length as you and that's okay we all have different journeys in life. When you expect from people you often end up disappointed and the other person feels burdened. Be good without expecting the same energy in return, don't attach yourself to the outcome of your good behavior.

6. Be open: Don't be the person who tries to push their own beliefs on other's, just let people be happy the way they are and respect them for their choices even when you don't resonate with them. If someone close to you is doing something wrong talk to them about it but don't try to push your ideas on them unless they ask for your input. Everyone has their own path of finding out what's wrong and what's right and it is not your responsibility. Look for the good in people and just let them be. We all have completely different ways to go about life so don't be judgy.

7. Community: Giving back to your community brings you closer to it's people. Volunteering and helping out people will raise empathy and social responsibility in you. Do selfless deeds.

8. Be Happy: Everything starts with you but everything also ends with you. If you aren't happy, calm and content with yourself, you will have a hard time providing a positive atmosphere for the people around you. Often times when we are down we get locked in this obessesive negative mentality in our own heads and don't really see what's going on around us, preoccupied with our own pain. Work on yourself and on your own issues not just so you can be happy but also so you can be a source of positivity to the one's around you.

These are a few things I stay mindful of in life so I can be more humble, it's not an easy thing to do especially on the bad days but it helps me understand the world around me better. I hope this helps.